"10 Proven Strategies: A Comprehensive Guide to Boosting Self-Esteem."

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Self-esteem can fluctuate from time to time and from day to day. Sometimes, it is at the over-the-top state, where you almost begin to feel like nothing can bring your high spirits down. And then shortly, the reverse becomes the case—your mind becomes so preoccupied with negativity.


For instance, your confidence level might have soared high after coming across this great post on social media, but minutes later, it plummets. You might have this self-esteem variance several times in a day, even within an hour or two.

Maintaining high self-esteem takes mental strength every single day. It can be tiring. According to research, the continuous attempt to maintain high levels of esteem could be disastrous to human health.

 So instead of forcefully pursuing high self-esteem, better stay committed to improving your well-being by learning to improve self-esteem. One step at a time, and soon you will live with your desired esteem.


What Does Self-Esteem Mean?

Before we talk about how you can improve your self-esteem, it would be essential to understand what the term means. In the words of Kristen Neff, writer and researcher on how self-compassion could alternate for self-esteem, "self-esteem refers to the extent to which we view ourselves positively. It encapsulates the degree to which we appreciate and place significance on ourselves and is, most times, based on how we compare ourselves to others".

Self-esteem is a product of who you perceive yourself to be and what you have achieved. In today's world of social media, how we perceive ourselves is almost always relative. Self-esteem can take a toll on you immediately when you drive into the internet streets.


Self-esteem can influence what you say about yourself. Once you evaluate yourself and perceive yourself as lagging behind, negative thoughts and self-criticism might begin to build in. However, the reverse is the case for people who care too much about their self-esteem. They tend to focus on uplifting themselves while belittling others to feel better.

 While positivity toward oneself can help in checking negative thoughts, always try to find out whether that inner voice is in constant comparison, whether it's in your favor or not. If you frequently have thoughts of not being "good enough," it can impact your relationships, physical health, and how you perform at your job.

 There is a distinct variance between self-esteem and confidence. Your self-esteem. influences how you view yourself, while your self-confidence depends on what you think of your skills and inborn talents. 

Your self-esteem stems from what you have gone through in life, right from childhood. Every traumatic, dramatic, or environmental experience leaves a sting on your self-esteem. Even in your childhood and teenage years, your self-esteem begins to fluctuate. While your self-confidence in a certain situation is built by how you have leveraged your skills and past experiences associated with the task,.

When a person believes in his ability to complete a task (self-confidence) while doubting his self-worth, that person might be struggling with low self-esteem.


What Can Lower Self-Esteem?

Several factors can diminish your self-esteem. Those factors might include the people in your life, your environment, or your mindset. Identifying those esteem-lowering agents can help you devise a strategy on how to successfully rebuild your broken walls.

Maybe you are still wondering what these factors might be. To help you comprehend better, here's a list of your esteem-lowering agents.

Abuse: An abusive and challenging relationship with parents while growing up or even as an adult could hamper your self-esteem. Research has shown that physical and emotional torture by parents is a huge esteem-diminishing factor.

Mindset: Pessimism could lower a person's self-esteem because it causes your mind with negative thoughts. That mindset constantly reminds you of how inadequate you are or how you can never attract anything positive, and with this, your confidence depreciates.

 Life Events: While some life events give your esteem a boost, others fail. For instance, after failing a few assignments in that challenging course you're offering at school, you begin to criticize yourself and perceive yourself to be academically poor. Your spirit gets dampened, and soon, your esteem gets affected.

Social Standards: It was discovered from a survey of college freshmen that 65% of them based their self-worth on their dress code. Exterior sources such as not receiving the approvals of others may lessen your esteem at any time, and this might be difficult to heal from.

 Goals Setting: Setting goals is awesome when done appropriately. But when you set unrealistic and seemingly unattainable goals, you set your esteem up for a bet when you don't achieve those goals.


10 Strategies for Improving Self-Esteem

Building self-esteem is certainly not a walk in the park, but when achieved, it could cause a huge boost to overall well-being.

In this sub-section, we will be taking a glance at these ten strategies that would help augment your self-esteem. Ponder the ones you'll love to begin trying out in your day-to-day life.

But please don't limit yourself to these: bear in mind that the most effective strategy to achieving wholesome self-esteem is to pay little or no attention to the esteem itself and be more concerned about practicing self-kindness and boosting self-confidence.

  1. Make A List Of Things You Appreciate About Yourself.

It could seem like such a herculean task, sitting down to ponder your most admirable features, and it could seem awkward as well. However appreciating your talents, skills, or special qualities about yourself can improve what you think and say about yourself.

Get a journal and make a note of those lovely things you've done and those things you will forever be thankful for. It seems silly, but it works wonders.

Cultivate the attitude of thanking yourself for being you!

2. Stop Trying To Please People.

One of the ways to identify a person with poor self-esteem is when he or she never says "no" to any request. For this kind of person, on their scale of preference, helping others comes before their own mental health. This kind of person is easily overwhelmed, and their work and personal lives are usually a mess. That, in turn, results in plenty of stress.

It's awesome to assist and support people when it's in your capacity, but your self-esteem bears the brunt when you attach your self-worth to how much you do for others.

Learn how not to give a "yes" to every request.

3. Move Outside Of Your Comfort Zone.

Another trait of people with low self-esteem is their tendency to always avoid attempting challenging or new things. This could be because of the fear of failing or insufficient belief in one's self. But when you thrive in any way, big or small, you begin to believe that you can keep going even during harsh moments.

Moving out of your comfort zone does not entail throwing yourself into very uneasy situations. It means a willingness to attempt new things, even in very challenging situations.

4. Appreciate Your Uniqueness; Stop Comparing Yourself to Others.

Your progress and self-esteem should not be tied to how well other people are faring. There'll always be someone a mile better than you, but this doesn't, in any sense, mean you aren't doing great.

No doubt, it's difficult to stop the comparison thing. However, detachment from social media could help in the fight. Even if you must scroll, constantly remind yourself that people only share the most 'positive' and glamorous sides of their lives online. Never allow likes on a social media photo to make the most of your self-worth.

Appreciate the things that differentiate you from others, but bear in mind that you're in no contest with anyone else's success.

5. Make Peace With Your Past.

As you strive to improve your self-esteem, one of the pivotal things you'll have to do is forgive yourself and the way you treated yourself in the past. Your journey toward building esteem can't be nudged forward if you refuse to accept how harshly judgmental you have been toward yourself and others. This habit can be difficult to part with. But definitely worth the effort. 

By making peace with yourself and forgiving yourself for the negative mistakes and thoughts in the past, you're making the decision to develop a healthier personal relationship with yourself.

6. Set Boundaries In Your Friendships And Relationships.

Have you ever thought about what your boundaries are in your personal and professional lives? You think they don't matter. Do you think setting boundaries would scare people away from you? Then, your esteem issue is fine for you.

To reach a certain level of self-esteem, you need to realize what boundaries are and how they are in collision with your values.

You'll also need to think about how to handle the case of people transversing them because it's a given—people will certainly cross those boundaries, whether intentionally or not.

In simple terms, setting boundaries means not giving others the power to control or take advantage of you. Learning to set boundaries at your workplace might differ from the way you do it in your personal life. You can turn off notifications at the end of the workday to maintain a balance between work and life, but you can't avoid your colleagues when you find it a bit challenging to be stringent with them. Exercise patience, and be honest.

7. Celebrate Your Wins.

Victories come in different parcels, and you must learn to celebrate every single one. Did you muster those words of positivity for yourself today? Did you wave off that negativity or confront those fears?

Stop pulling off those feelings of enthusiasm and pride, but rather appreciate them. It'll aid in boosting your self-worth and make you feel happier with yourself.

8. Dispatch Negative People Out Of Your Life

We always talk about waving off negative thoughts but rarely emphasize how negative people can impact one's psychology. The people around you play a huge role in your mood, self-confidence, and self-esteem.

 If there are these people who never fail to remind you of your shortcomings, ridicule your mistakes, or confront you with self-doubt, your self-worth will definitely be affected. However, dispatching these negative energies will create space for positivity and heartwarming thoughts to aid in boosting your self-esteem.

  1. Minimize The Use of “Should” And “Must” Statements.

If you’re someone whose thoughts and words are filled with "must" and “should” statements, you might be subconsciously putting too much pressure on yourself. Lessen the use of such statements today, and you’ll surely begin to view yourself in a healthier light.

  1. Take Care Of Yourself.

Maintain a healthy lifestyle. Make it a duty to exercise for at least 30 minutes every day of the week, or at least most days of the week. Make the intake of fruits and vegetables a second nature, and cut down on junk foods, sweets, and saturated fats.


It would be an abrupt fallacy if you’re told that going from low to high esteem can happen overnight. It takes days, weeks, months, and sometimes even years of small steps, little improvement, cutting off, and imbibing ins. The goal is long-term, and the main focus is on the bigger picture. Take it easy on yourself.

On those good days, when you feel super confident, celebrate, but please don’t punish yourself when those negative patterns of thought creep in. Dust yourself up and forge ahead on the positivity journey. Eventually, this will become second nature, and you’ll discover that your self-esteem levels have surged immensely.


I wish you the best of luck on this walk toward discovering, recovering, and regaining your self-worth.


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